There are ways you can love a lady wrongly.

      

Phunmmy

      Love is an attribute of our true being. Genuine Love unveils your real personality even without your consent or permission.

  Love can be defined in different ways: it's patient, it's enduring, it's sacrificial, love is felt most when it's genuine, love entails trust. Biblically,  love embodies the whole other fruit of the spirit. In that scripture (Gal 5:19-23), I'd like to draw our attention to the two verbs   'are' and 'is' that are used there.  When Brother Paul was mentioning the works of the flesh in verse 19, he used the verb "are these", then proceeded to mentioning them. But in verse 22, he used a singular verb *'is* Love, joy, peace...then 6 other fruit of the spirit followed. 

    It was not a mistake that Love topped the list,  then others followed. In fact, love has captured and covered the other fruit of the spirit mentioned. If you have love,  you can have every other thing. 

     Basically, Love can be Agape,  filial or erotic. These 3 make up the common kinds of love we express. 

    Agape is the God's kind of love; the greatest love towards mankind. Filial is the love shared among brethren in the family. Erotic love is shared between two souls that has been joined together in holy matrimony. English dictionary says "it's a type of love that seeks fulfilment without violation" in essence, it's love that has obtained a legal ground for it to be displayed. At that, it will no longer be a sin of fornication if you know the opposite sex. 

It takes two beautiful ,connected and loving hearts to build a model home/marriage.

   Profoundly, Love is sweet when shared aright. With focus into a marital/relationship context now;  it takes two beautiful ,connected and loving hearts to build a model home/marriage, and it takes just one ugly, selfish and disturbed heart to dash the home into pieces. 

There are attributes of love; compassion, care, attention, long suffering, sacrifice, trust, loyalty, commitment,honesty...    

It is evident that these attributes are of the right attitudes to loving a woman rightly. Contrarily, there are wrong ways you can love a woman. Yeah. But what is the essence of love when it makes the other partner unhappy? Needless, you must have said !

     Women, by divine configuration are different and very unique creatures from the men, biologically, physically, emotionally, even mentally. She carries virtues like the 'prov31' woman. She's strong, intellectual and committed. When she loves, trust me, she does that for real; she's a servant but not a slave, she's a prayer warrior, she's industrious and hardworking, she's just a perfect lover. 

She may not be perfect, but she's beeen created to carry out an unrivalled function in life. Humorously, she tends to do more talking than the man, she craves for attention, Yeah. she loves to be loved, cared for and pampered; Although,  she could nag and give attitudes, nevertheless, she still loves her man cause her heart is captured by his love.  And so I've been talking about a mature woman with a heart and act of gold, not some usual women. 

Now it takes a very mature and understanding man to relate with her kind of being. In contrast, an inexperienced or shallow-minded man would love her wrongly. He would molest her, have zilch interest in her ambitions, cease to support her spiritually, morally and financially, he would divulge to his friends her weaknesses and make mockery of her, he would start seeing other women outside, he praises other men's women more dan he praises her, he feels he is the head of the home, and so treats her like a slave, her opinion doesn't count...

In a nut shell, he makes her unhappy. All these are wrong ways of loving a woman.

The intention of the man may not be outrightly bad, but the woman gets hugely hurt, and unproductive.

In Christendom, love should be enjoyed the most even as we have been commanded (Colossians  3:19  Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.)

Spirituality doesn't breed stupidity. 

You could be a man of God,  but in marriage, be more wise and human. 

When God gives you a wife; He may not give you the perfect woman in the world, it is your duty to nurture her into what rightly suit her Lord.

May we not miss it in marriage in Jesus' name.  Amen. 

©phunmmy

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